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What prevents me from being “Super Mom”
Posted by on February 9, 2013
Over the past two years, I’ve worked very hard to figure out how all these successful stay at home moms keep their house clean, raise respectable children, and look like a million bucks doing it. How do they have the discipline to “get it all done”? I really do understand that no one is actually perfect, but they sure seem like they have it all together!
Like I said, this has been a process. I’ve done a pretty thorough assessment of myself and I believe that it all comes down to three things: Distractions, Lack of Discipline and Pity Parties.
I swear sometimes that I have Attention Deficit Disorder with as scattered as my brain is, but how many unnecessary things do I have going on in my home that take my attention away from the important things? I first started to realize how much he t.v. is on in my house. I say I like it for the noise, but it honestly takes my attention away from what I need to do. You’ve had those moments where you look in the pantry to get something and then can’t remember what you were trying to get. What all is going on in your house when this happens? How much of that is just unnecessary noise?
Lack of Discipline, I’m soooo guilty of this. I don’t wake up at a set time every morning. My husband’s alarm goes off at 4:30 a.m. and he hits snooze for an hour. I get up sometime in that hour and fix his breakfast and lunch for the day. Sometimes I stay up and clean or I go back to bed. I don’t get my kids up at a certain time, I just let them wake up on their own. Every morning always seems so crazy because I feel like I never know what’s going on. I’m horrible at scheduling. Definitely something I need to work on!
And lastly, the dredded “pity party”. How many times have your kids and husband been in the living room/den watching a movie while you are still stuck in the kitchen cleaning or even getting things ready for breakfast in the morning? It’s really easy to feel the, “THIS ISN’T FAIR!!” feeling although you know that if you don’t do this life will just be harder tomorrow or for the next meal.
Being a stay at home mom really is a blessing. I realize that in another 10-15 years, my babies will be teenagers and life will be drastically different. Probably less hugs and kisses and they will need me to do things for them less. I know when that time comes, I’ll be missing days like today. So, I’m trying to embrace the work I put into them now because I know that I will be blessed for it later! Super mom, maybe she doesn’t exist, but I’m going to do the best that I can.
Oh, you don’t have ADD; you’re a mom. Or maybe all moms have ADD… In any case, I totally agree that those things–or similar ones–keep us from reaching our full potential as moms. In my case, when I ignore the Internet and just focus on my kids and meals and basic housekeeping, I find that I get a whole lot more done.